2008 Woodie Awards
Dancing her way to a degree
Deborah Chessey
Issue date: 10/17/07 Section: Opinion
for herself and the groom, but the blushing bride did not have a clue.
I asked her if women should get the screaming jealousies when they find out their partner is attending a party that will include an exotic dancer, "Absolutely not. Women should come more often" she stated. "When a man brings his girlfriend or wife it is a better experience. Dancers pay more attention to women, and men get to have the girl on girl fantasy. Women are beautiful and they should embrace that, they might not have all of the physical aspects that the media has told them are important, but confidence is the most important quality a woman can have" she said. "The idea of beauty comes from the inside."
Surely it has happened that she has seen some of her clients in public afterward and they have recognized her. "It happens all the time, sometimes the men want to know if I remember them and I tell them 'sure I do baby,' everyone wants to think we made a connection."
She shattered my pre-conception that dancers are man hungry party girls. Jessie is a full- time college student and a mother who has recently purchased a home. She hasn't been in a relationship in nine months, "I spend five nights a week at home with my daughter. I do homework, I cook dinner, I read bed time stories."
Have you ever danced for a professor? "Yes, but not one whose class I have attended."
How much do you make? "Between four and five thousand a month."
Do you parent's know what you do for a living? "Yes. They know how much money I make and they support me. They know I am a college student supporting myself and my daughter."
Have you told your daughter what you do? "My daughter knows I am a dancer. I was raised by parents who were open and honest and that is how I raise my daughter. I am not going to lie to her -she would find out later and hold it against me."
Have you got any words of advice for a man who wants to date an exotic dancer? After laughing she replied, "Good luck."
Jessie is a young woman who is seeking a degree in mass communication, and she has chosen an alternative means to pay for her diploma. She is providing for her family's present life by dancing; and their future by getting a degree-and she is doing it all in four inch tall heels.
I asked her if women should get the screaming jealousies when they find out their partner is attending a party that will include an exotic dancer, "Absolutely not. Women should come more often" she stated. "When a man brings his girlfriend or wife it is a better experience. Dancers pay more attention to women, and men get to have the girl on girl fantasy. Women are beautiful and they should embrace that, they might not have all of the physical aspects that the media has told them are important, but confidence is the most important quality a woman can have" she said. "The idea of beauty comes from the inside."
Surely it has happened that she has seen some of her clients in public afterward and they have recognized her. "It happens all the time, sometimes the men want to know if I remember them and I tell them 'sure I do baby,' everyone wants to think we made a connection."
She shattered my pre-conception that dancers are man hungry party girls. Jessie is a full- time college student and a mother who has recently purchased a home. She hasn't been in a relationship in nine months, "I spend five nights a week at home with my daughter. I do homework, I cook dinner, I read bed time stories."
Have you ever danced for a professor? "Yes, but not one whose class I have attended."
How much do you make? "Between four and five thousand a month."
Do you parent's know what you do for a living? "Yes. They know how much money I make and they support me. They know I am a college student supporting myself and my daughter."
Have you told your daughter what you do? "My daughter knows I am a dancer. I was raised by parents who were open and honest and that is how I raise my daughter. I am not going to lie to her -she would find out later and hold it against me."
Have you got any words of advice for a man who wants to date an exotic dancer? After laughing she replied, "Good luck."
Jessie is a young woman who is seeking a degree in mass communication, and she has chosen an alternative means to pay for her diploma. She is providing for her family's present life by dancing; and their future by getting a degree-and she is doing it all in four inch tall heels.
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Tara
posted 10/19/07 @ 6:56 PM MST
I'd just like to take a moment to offer a quick correction. Bellydancing was never considered an erotic dance form until it Little Egypt danced in the United States for the first time near the turn of the century. (Continued…)
Chrystal
Chrystal Reece
posted 10/30/07 @ 8:00 AM MST
Yes, I second that comment. Middle Eastern Dance, commonly known as 'belly dance,' has dealt with the 'exotic dance' misconceptions forever. The term 'bellydance' is actually a mispronunciation of "baladi,' an Arabic word meaning "of the country" or, in other words, folk dancing. (Continued…)
fake degree
posted 10/16/08 @ 5:29 AM MST
I respect this girl for her options. It's obvious that she wouldn't be able to go to classes and earn enough money to survive with a usual job. When she chose to be an exotic dancer she made a sort of sacrifice, fighting to take her degree and fighting for a better future. (Continued…)
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